Capricorn men have a reputation for being stable, committed, and security-oriented in relationships. But what if something feels off? How do you know if a Capricorn man is playing you?
If you’re questioning his intentions, you’re not alone… Capricorn men are ambitious and career-focused, which sometimes makes it difficult to tell if they are truly invested in a relationship—or just keeping things casual.
So, do Capricorn men sleep around? Is sleeping with a Capricorn man too soon a mistake? The truth is, not all Capricorn men are players, but some do prefer casual connections over serious commitment, especially when they’re focused on personal success.
If you suspect your Capricorn man is leading you on or using you, keep reading to uncover the key signs and what you can do about it….
Do Capricorn Men Sleep Around? Are They Players?
Capricorn men are not naturally players, but like all zodiac signs, some may avoid commitment while pursuing their goals. The Capricorn man womanizer is rare, but he does exist—typically someone who prioritizes power, status, and success over deep emotional connections.
However, the majority of Capricorn men value stability and seek meaningful relationships. These men aren’t interested in wasting time on short-term flings unless they’ve made it clear from the start. If you’re questioning your Capricorn man’s behavior, pay attention to his consistency, communication, and level of emotional investment.
If your instincts are telling you something is off, don’t ignore them. A Capricorn man won’t always say outright that he’s not looking for something serious, but his actions will reveal the truth. Let’s look at the biggest red flags…
Will Sleeping With a Capricorn Man Too Soon Ruin Your Shot at Love?
No, sleeping with a Capricorn man too soon won’t automatically ruin your chances of a real relationship. But it’s important to recognize that Capricorn men take commitment seriously. If he sees you as a long-term partner, your connection will go deeper than just physical attraction.
However, if you sense that he only reaches out when he wants intimacy and avoids deeper conversations, he may not be interested in more. The key is how he treats you before and after—does he make time for meaningful conversations, or does he disappear? If it’s the latter, it might be time to set clear boundaries.
The most important thing is to trust yourself. Whether you choose to wait or not, your worth isn’t determined by when you sleep with him but by how he treats you overall.
So, How to Know if a Capricorn Man is Playing You (7 Warning Signs)
1. He Doesn’t Include You in His Life
When a Capricorn man is serious about a woman, he naturally includes her in his world—his friends, work, and long-term plans. If he keeps you separate from his social circle or never talks about his future with you in it, he may not see you as a long-term partner.
If he’s only reaching out on his terms, only spending time in private, or avoiding serious conversations, he’s likely keeping things casual. Capricorn men value efficiency, even in dating, so if he’s not integrating you into his world, he may not be as invested as you are.
2. He Introduces You as His “Friend”
Capricorns don’t waste words. If he’s only introducing you as his “friend” when you’re clearly more than that, it’s a major red flag. Either he’s not ready to commit, or he doesn’t want others to know about your relationship.
If this happens, don’t be afraid to ask: “Where do you see this going?” A Capricorn man won’t lie—he’ll either tell you the truth or dodge the question. Either way, his response will give you clarity.
3. He Avoids Personal Conversations
A Capricorn man takes his time opening up, but if he’s serious about you, he’ll gradually start sharing more about himself. If you’ve been seeing him for a while and he still won’t talk about his emotions, dreams, or struggles, he may not be emotionally invested.
A man who is only interested in a casual fling won’t feel the need to share his inner world with you. If your conversations remain surface-level, take it as a sign a Capricorn man is keeping you at a distance.
4. Romance Is Completely Absent
Capricorn men may not be the most overtly romantic sign, but when they care, they show it through thoughtful gestures and consistent effort. If he’s not planning dates, giving small compliments, or making an effort to make you feel special, he might not see you as a priority.
A man who is emotionally invested will put in the effort. If he’s only around when it’s convenient for him, he’s not serious about building something real. This is a surefire sign that your Capricorn man is playing you.
5. He’s Emotionally Distant
If your Capricorn man pulls away every time you try to connect on a deeper level, take that as a warning sign that he is just using you. Capricorn men can be reserved, but when they truly care about someone, they make an effort to build trust.
If he acts detached or indifferent, he may not be emotionally available. Don’t force it—if he’s not willing to open up, he may not be ready for something serious.
6. His Communication Is Inconsistent
Capricorn men are busy, but not too busy for someone they care about. If he regularly goes days without responding, only reaches out when he wants something, or avoids deep conversations, it is one of the biggest signs that a Capricorn man is playing you.
He takes his relationships and romances very seriously, so when there is little to no effort from his side, then there is a very good chance that your Capricorn man is just playing you and only wants a hookup…
7. You Can’t Rely on Him
Capricorn men are known for being dependable. So if he’s constantly breaking promises, canceling plans, or failing to follow through, he’s showing you that you’re not a priority. Your Capricorn man is probably just playing you.
When a Capricorn man truly cares, he shows up. If he doesn’t, believe his actions—not his words. If you have had enough of dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Capricorn Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Capricorn guy.
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8. He Shows No Signs of Jealousy
When a Capricorn man is only interested in a casual hookup, he remains emotionally detached. One of the biggest indicators of this is his lack of jealousy. While not all men express jealousy in obvious ways, a Capricorn man who genuinely cares about you will at least show some level of protectiveness or interest when it comes to your interactions with other men.
If he never asks about who you’re spending time with, doesn’t seem to care when you mention another guy, or remains indifferent when you go out without him, it could be a sign that your Capricorn man just wants to hook up. Capricorn men are naturally guarded and strategic in relationships, but when they want something real, they won’t just stand by passively.
However, keep in mind that some Capricorn men may not display jealousy overtly, but instead, they show their interest through consistency, effort, and emotional availability. If those elements are missing, he may not be as invested as you’d like him to be.
Related: Are Capricorn men jealous and controlling? Find out here.
9. He Only Reaches Out When He Wants Something
Capricorn men are very efficient, and this applies to their romantic lives as well. If your Capricorn guy only messages or calls when he wants to hook up, but disappears the rest of the time, it’s a red flag.
A man who is emotionally invested will make time for real conversations, check in on how you’re doing, and include you in his life beyond just physical encounters. If he doesn’t ask about your day, your goals, or your emotions, and instead, the conversations always circle back to meeting up late at night or when it’s convenient for him, then it’s clear he sees this as a no-strings-attached arrangement.
This dynamic can be painful, especially if you’ve developed feelings for him and keep hoping things will change. If a Capricorn man wants a serious relationship, he will make time for you outside of the bedroom. If he doesn’t, you may need to ask yourself if you’re comfortable with the situation as it is.
You may also want to read: Do Capricorn men cheat? Learn all about Capricorn man cheating signs here.
10. He Avoids Public Outings with You
Capricorn men are naturally private, but when they’re serious about someone, they have no problem being seen with them. If your Capricorn man only wants to meet at your place or his, but never suggests going out for dinner, a movie, or any public activity, this is a strong warning sign that he might be using you.
While some men are introverted and prefer low-key dates, a man who truly cares about you will want to integrate you into different aspects of his life. If he’s making excuses for why he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public, he may be keeping your connection a secret—or worse, he may not be seeing you as a long-term option.
You can address this by asking him how he feels about doing things together outside of private spaces. If he dodges the conversation or doesn’t make an effort to change, he’s likely not looking for anything beyond a physical connection.
11. He’s Secretive and Keeps You in the Dark
Capricorn men are naturally reserved and private, but there’s a big difference between being cautious with emotions and actively hiding things from you. If he’s overly secretive about his personal life, keeps his phone away from you, never shares his plans, or frequently disappears without explanation, this is a clear sign your Capricorn man is playing you.
A Capricorn man who sees you as a potential long-term partner will gradually open up over time. He won’t feel the need to keep you guessing or act suspicious. If you find yourself constantly wondering where he is, what he’s doing, or why he’s not telling you things, it’s worth considering whether he’s truly invested in your relationship or just keeping you around on his terms.
Watch the video below for some more insights on Capricorn man when he is playing you:
What To Do When A Capricorn Man Is Just Using You for Sex
Realizing that a Capricorn man is only interested in a physical relationship can be heartbreaking, especially if you want something deeper. While Capricorn men are often described as relationship-oriented and committed, not all of them are ready to settle down right away. Some prefer to keep things casual until they meet the right woman who aligns with their long-term vision.
If your Capricorn man is only reaching out for intimacy and showing little effort outside of that, it’s time to take control of the situation. Ask yourself: Is he investing in you emotionally? Does he make time for you beyond physical encounters? If not, then he may not see you as a long-term prospect.
The best way to shift the dynamic is to set clear boundaries. Stop sleeping with him if he’s not reciprocating emotional effort. A Capricorn man respects honesty and directness, so instead of playing games or using manipulation, be upfront about what you want.
Tell him clearly: “I’ve realized that I want more than just a physical connection. If you don’t feel the same way, I need to step back.” This approach will either encourage him to step up or make it clear that he isn’t interested in anything serious. Either way, you’re reclaiming your power.
Remember, you deserve someone who values you beyond the physical connection. If he’s not willing to invest in you emotionally, walking away is sometimes the best way to show your worth.
FAQs On a Capricorn Man Playing Games…
Capricorn men are known for their serious and goal-oriented nature, but that doesn’t mean they’re always straightforward in relationships. If you feel like your Capricorn man is sending mixed signals, acting distant, or keeping you guessing, you’re not alone….
Here are some of the most common questions about Capricorn men playing games with you…
Will a Capricorn Man Lead You On?
Capricorn men are usually honest and direct, but that doesn’t mean they’re incapable of leading someone on. If a Capricorn man is unsure about what he wants or isn’t emotionally ready for commitment, he might continue seeing you without defining the relationship.
However, he won’t necessarily do this with bad intentions… Capricorn men don’t typically play games just for the sake of it. They often get caught up in their careers and personal goals, making it difficult for them to invest fully in a relationship.
If he’s inconsistent, avoids serious conversations, or seems emotionally detached, it’s important to address it directly. Ask him where he sees things going. Capricorn men respect clear, no-nonsense communication. If he can’t give you a straight answer, it may be time to set your own boundaries and decide if you’re okay with the uncertainty.
Read also: Is A Capricorn Man Hiding His Feelings Or Not Interested?
Do Capricorns Like to Play Games?
Capricorn men aren’t the type to play mind games for fun. They value honesty, structure, and stability, so they usually don’t see the point in manipulative tactics. However, that doesn’t mean they’re always emotionally transparent. A Capricorn man might test your patience or loyalty by keeping some emotional distance, taking things slowly, or focusing heavily on his work before fully committing.
If it ever feels like he’s toying with your emotions, it’s more likely that he’s guarding himself rather than playing games intentionally. Capricorns take relationships seriously, and if they sense uncertainty, they may pull back rather than engage in drama. The best approach is to be straightforward and ask for clarity—he will respect you more for it and respond with the honesty you need.
Is Your Capricorn Man Distant After Intimacy?
Does your Capricorn man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection?
Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment…
Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…
But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant…
Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…
What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.
It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer.
And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back…
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And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
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Sending you love,
Your sister and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
This sum everything up down 2 a tee..i guess this is the worse man to date..ive been trying to deal with my capricorn man for so long.. Cause i love him..but this gave me a big insight on him.
Hi Nesha! Actually, Capricorn men aren’t the worst to date. They are complicated and depending on the woman, they may be quite a handful. They do have some redeeming qualities otherwise we wouldn’t fall in love with them. If you’re having issues with your guy, perhaps you should check out my book as it may reveal much more insight on what may be going on, how to handle it, or just give you a better view of who he is.
I’ve been dating a Capricorn man for almost a year now. We are both divorced and I have two kids, he has one. I’ve introduced him to my kidz as a friend for staters . He is resisting to introduce me to his kid. We meet at my place for a few hours and always leaves because he can’t leave the child alone for long(14 yrs girl)
We have never went out together, when I initiate an outing he always has excuses. He has never taken me out not once. Whenever I insist on going out or visiting him at his place he gets upset.
I tried ending the relationship but he claims that he loves me and can not accept the end of the relationship,I must give him time to sort things out.
Is there hope in this , Please HELP!!
Sweetheart He is NOT that into you. My dad is a Cap and this article is spot on! If u haven’t met his child been to his home or taken u oit on great dates, he is not into you. This is a man of action. You believe what they do NOT always what they say. They like control period so if your easily controlled he will hold on to you jist because he can. Don’t waste your time. He will never marry you. Move on.
Hi Tirry, it sounds like your Capricorn man requested what he needs from you which is time and space. It sounds pretty normal that he wouldn’t want you to introduce him to your children or any other family until you two are certain of where things are headed. Capricorn is a slow mover because he needs to be totally certain of what he’s doing and who he is choosing for his potential mate. He probably is trying to guard you and your kids just in case things don’t work for whatever reason. He has high morals and standards. All you can do is exactly as he requested. Be patient and let him figure things out. He may not want you making the suggestions of when to get together. He may want to take the lead on it and if you aren’t allowing him to do it, it makes him feel as though he’s not a real man in this relationship. You probably should check out my book for more information on the Capricorn man as it may help you understand him better. Take a look at “Capricorn Man Secrets”.
I was with a Capricorn man for 3 years it was great at first then it switched. I felt it coming so I was somewhat prepared emotionally but then someone close to me passed away I lost my job and became depressed prior to that he stopped doing the little stuff which kind of made me more depressed but somewhat mad inside we had a big argument I left and came back days later and he been talking to a few girls said it didn’t mean anything but he told one of the girls he always wanted to be with her so in my mind there was no point of us being together but he expressed how he wanted me to stay a little down the line he started getting cold towards me and I stopped showing him attention then one day he said he didn’t want to do this anymore we broke up then weeks later he gets with the same girl so my question is was I just something to do while he was waiting for her
Hi Ameena!
It sounds like your Capricorn guy was making you his second choice or option. You deserve a lot better than that honey. If he’s willing to leave you during a time where you really needed him then he’s not worth your effort. A Capricorn man in love will stand by your side and do everything he can to make you feel safe and cared for. Keep on your search and make sure your heart is open. Someone else is out there that will show you what real love is!
I met a Capricorn man online I’m 34 he is 41. He is a nice guy we have great conversation we are both funny and make each other laugh. We are comfortable with each other I can see him being my Man and I can see me being the Woman for him. We both are go getters and focus ok n work and understand the importance of work him more than me though. I would say I know how to relax from work I feel he needs to be shown how to relax which I have told when we met I feel he has a lot of energy maybe too much or he needs to know when and where to focus it. He is smart and an asshole at the same time and he agrees…I told he we have a love/hate relationship…He says I draw out and repeat everything we have talked about but I told him it’s only because I feel he has not listened and there is many ways to explain something so the person gets it…He hates that…He wants me to get straight to the point and skip all my emotions but I cant because I need to unders tr and where he is coming from and also understand my response…We are lovely when together but when we are apart its WW3. Then back to calm waters when togethe..He acts like he has no emotions but I know he does he shows me..But when he shows me too much i feel he changes to try to confuse me..We have not yet met each others families i dont know when this will happen. OH I forgot to mention him and my son are both capricorns and the names are so similar his Dontaye Lavar my son Deante’ Lavon we found this to be oddly strange and funny.
I was talking to a Capricorn man online I had just came out of a long relationship and told him I was not ready to be dating he said he wanted to meet me as friends anyway I said ok as long as you understand just friends as we had been speaking a lot and he was not leaving me alone he opened up to me about his life.
When I met him he could not take his hands off me kept touching my face, trying to hold my hand and I would not kiss him so he was pecking me he told me I was better than he imagined.
He was always texting me and calling me then he started saying he felt ‘meh’ and may need some time alone then said ignore him. He was in a bad space and asked me to come and see him I said ok as friends I don’t want nothing more he took me out round his area we went to a coffee shop he goes to regularly he was touchy feely and kept making references about us together in the future.
After that meet up he was still in contact he then asked for space for the wk which I gave him When I got back in touch with him he was quite low the corona virus is around and his taking it hard. He then text me to say he had decided to travel an hour and a half to stay in quarantine with his ex who is now like his sister. I really did not get it he then opened up and day by day he seems to be depressed he started not talking to me as much and now I don’t know what to even think anymore I really did start liking him but now I feel messed about.
Is he from Kentucky?
Hi Paige,
It sounds like he told you exactly what was going on that he was feeling low and down. At least he was being honest about it. This makes him unsure of what he wants, how he should proceed, etc. Until he figures that out, he cannot really offer you much of anything other than friendship. If you are patient and let him work himself out then perhaps he’ll get back on top and will start trying to form more with you. It’s really up to you though whether or not you’re willing to wait him out. If not then just stay friends and move forward with yourself. Either you’ll meet someone else who is on the same page with you OR he’ll fix himself and come back around. You win whichever way you choose darling!
I have a situation with a Capricorn man. We had a fling two years ago, but it ended on both sides, however we work together and have also remained close friends. I broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago and my Cappy has been there for me in absolutely everything and helped me get on the right track. This got us very close, I confessed that I like him and he said that he likes me too but that it would be complicated for us to be together and he doesn’t want to hurt me. We’ve been intimate 3 times, he initiated all. He was playful and flirty, but then we had an argument and he went very cold. We’ve worked things out, and I thought that we are just friends again (as he said during the argument) but then we did it once more, he initiated it this time as well. The other day he invited me at his house, very short notice and I went there. We just chilled and had a couple drinks, nothing sexual happened. We still work together and he is very quiet with me even when I try to initiate conversations. I know he has a lot going on in his life. I really don’t understand ? I thought we’d be just friends after the argument and was good with the idea as I want him to be part of my life in any way we can work out but I don’t know how I should interpret him initiating intimacy again, and inviting me to his house (for the first time an official invitation just the two of us). Wa she trying to show me he is not interested in anything more than friends (hence just watching series and having a couple beers)?
Hi Gabby!
It sounds like he’s looking to have a friends with benefits situation with you. If you aren’t down for that then you need to let him know that you don’t mind being friends but not friends who have sex. Tell him you like him far more than that and until he’s ready then friendship needs to remain just that. It may actually impress him enough to pursue you a bit. If he doesn’t then you aren’t really losing anything. Give it a shot and see what happens!
i am having troubles with my capricorn man i am a scorpio woman, i once cheated and told him but didnt realise that i did because i have a syndrom which took me over. we broke up and he was in a new relationship but but they broke up because of me and we made up back, now i am insecure because i am not sure if he loves me as the first time we met. one time he told me he needed space but it wasnt because of her, i realise he started move strangley so i created a new facebook account and texted him, me mention that he was still in love with the girl and he misses her and i ask him a few question which is based on a SITUATION WITH ME AND ME AND HE WAS LIKE HE DATED GIRL THAT HE DIDNT REALLY LOVE BUT IT WASNT GONNA LAST LONG BECAUSE NHIS MIND IaNsT THEIR but i know it was me… i call him a few days later and ask him if we broke up but he was like what am i talking about. its like hes playing with my emotion…. maybe i just dont know the correct questionn to ask him
Hi keditia!
It sounds like your situation really requires patience and the allowance of time to heal old wounds. Although I think you should ask him what his deal is. Tell him that you know about the other girl (you don’t have to tell him how) and you need to know if you’re the one for him or if she is because you aren’t going to compete for his love. That way he will tell you whether he wants to stay with you or not. Tell him you don’t have time for games or b.s. Get his attention and the answers you deserve. Want to know more about Capricorn men? Check out my books on Capricorn Man Secrets.
Hi I met the bold Capricorn I’m dealing with in 2018. We hung out a couple times and in 2020 we got intimate he isn’t really verbal unless I’m sparking the conversation. We don’t really talk much in between time, on the phone at all and messages sometimes but I usually send the msg first. If I see him out we he always takes up my time as if he is trying to make sure other guys don’t talk to me and kinda acts jealous if I do talk to anyone. He says I’m to friendly (I’ am a libra Sep 23) he always ask me if I’ am dealing with other guys but recently I asked if he is dealing with other girls and he said yea honestly but I didn’t ask how many. He is multiple years younger than me and the last time we hung out he talked more asking me questions about my personal life so that was different. I ended up at a Easter celebration at his moms house unknowing that it was there in tell I got there. He was there we spoke hugged and I went about the day I know his mom already met her when I was younger and he mentioned that she asked about me he told her we have been dealing with each other for a while.. I took it as a good sign him telling he and I have something. I don’t know what to do because the silence in between is to much I want more but I don’t think he is ready.
Hi Raquel!
The thing that’s bothering me here is that he’s told you he’s talking to other girls after being so jealous about thinking you might be talking to other guys. I wouldn’t feel at all comfortable with that. It’s good you know his mom but he’s the one making the decisions for himself. Why is there silence between you? I think I’d be calling him and asking him what is going on. Tell him that you don’t like the silence and you’d like to be exclusive. You can learn more about how to handle him by reading my books on Capricorn Man Secrets. Don’t sell yourself short.
I’ve been casually seeing a Capricorn man for 3 years. It’s difficult to get time together as he is in the military and he also has children he has on weekends. He goes long periods without talking which is something I’m not happy about but have come to terms that this is just how he is. He has now put in to leave the military and says when he has a normal life it will be easier to spend time together. We have never been on a date or spent any quality time together although he says he wants too. I’ve tried to cut him off many times as I feel I want more but he always manages to get back in touch. He says he genuinely really likes me and thinks about me often. Am I wasting my time or is it worth being patient and seeing if once he has left the military things change?
Hi Deon!
I would say that if he keeps coming back around like he is then there is something there. Why not trust in it and give it a shot?! I do think patience could help you out. Watch his actions and see if he lines up with his words. He may be someone you can love the rest of your days. Just let him show you sweetheart. If you decide it’s not something you want then you always have the options to call it quits. It’s all up to you. I wish you lots of love and happiness!
I was dating this cap off and on for 2 years. Finally , he’s single and I’ve been over to his apartment 4x’s. He was living with his bm at the time we was dating. Now that she’s out the picture i been at his house. We are good when we together. I met his 3year old son and his family on his father side. But something still puzzles me. The silence, no communication. I always text him first. He text back but it’s so dry to me, he says he loves me, but something missing, I’m love him too l, but at this point i don’t know what to do.
Right now i am so confused with were i stand one minute he days he loves me & makes plans for us and the future
Then next he goes all cold on me and does not call me
But communication through social media were as i would prefer a phone call
Im getting fed up & frausted now
I’m Dealing with a Capricorn man now someday he’s texting and call me and other days he’s cold towards me, especially after sex. I been off and on with him for 2 years now. I honestly don’t know if I see the relationship going any further
I’m seeing a cap man for two months. He said he’s no boyfriend material and not over his ex. I said I’m just out of an exhausting relationship and don’t want sth complicated.
We meet one to three times a week more or less. Its unsteady though.. We don’t chat everyday, mostly I start the smalltalk and he’s asking for meetups, I feel like he’s opening up in getting closer in bed and in sharing, we talk for hours (more than having sex;)) about personal stuff: family, origin, issues, feelings, philosophy, music, society, spirituality, drugs, we laugh together, listen a lot to music. Mostly we meet at his place, he made excuses why he doesn’t want to go out with me. We went to a lake twice at least, once to the supermarket and once I joined one of his gigs, we even kissed there for short. Once he wanted to take me with him to meet his friends, but I cancelled cause he was so drunk and I was not. We already had a fight, I lost my nerve, I felt like he would just let me fall, cause in the end I feel like I don’t mean a lot to him, but he didn’t let me fall, he accepted my apology. I didn’t expect that. That really surprised me and made me like like he does care about our bond.. Or staying in contact.
Several times we feel asleep together, after one night I stayed the whole next day..
Twice he kinda comforted me when I was sad, just short, but he put his arms around me and kissed my face, it also really surprised me cause more often he seems quite distant..
Now last week we had a great evening with fun, good talks and sex ..after that he totally pulled away, he knew I went on vacation, no good wishes from him, not a word, just silence and a short reply on my question about our last evening.. Nothing.
I feel like asking if everything is ok, but feel like I would run after him..
So I feel like letting him go.. Although after this evening I felt like telling him that I’m starting to build trust and I’m starting to really like him and that I feel it could be more than hooking up..
But his pulling away and silence felt like a slap and I don’t feel like writing anything at all although I’m disappointed and would wish for more to develop with him
It’s kinda contradictory and also like a play of hot and cold, distance and being close.
I don’t know what to do.
I have enjoyed reading about Capricorn men. I can relate to all these situations. I can’t believe that no one mentioned how quick a cap can become bored, and how they hate to be alone. Or how they can’t handle things running smoothly for too long , they have to start an argument! I have experienced all these things with him .But I know where I messed up with my cap.i started calling him out for his disrespectful behavior. He would apologize but then do it again,& again .So I then started telling him what he was by using the appropriate names. He gets upset and doesn’t like hearing it . Not caring that I was upset over his actions! He seems to be confused from one day to the next. I blame aspartame poisoning for the most part.He goes thru 3 big packs of gum every day of his life, and is showing all the symptoms. Regardless of what’s to blame , poisons, his cheating heart, my stereotyping him, his need for constant attention , has all took it’s toll on our 18 month relationship. I really don’t feel like he’s worthy enough to have me , and he’s not. But why do I always give into him? His sorry’s mean nothing anymore. Words are cheap and I love you ‘s are free. What in this world is the matter with me?