Modern dating isn’t easy for anyone! And while being “friends with benefits” might seem like a great option for a while, there sometimes comes a point where you’d like to take it further. It’s tricky to get your man on the same page, especially the sometimes-intimidating Capricorn fella! Find out how you can go from casual to exclusive with him!
Capricorn men are almost never an open book. In fact, they can be downright mysteries, and it’s hard to know if they’re on the same page as you when it comes to your relationship.
Here’s the truth: all a Capricorn man wants, deep down, is a committed, long-term relationship. But it’s possible that he’s been burnt so many times he’s just too scared to open up his heart again, and he’ll never tell you that!
Capricorn is an earth sign, and all earth signs long for that stability and security. However, some do go through the bachelor phase, especially after a divorce or tricky breakup, and they’re able to switch their hearts off completely. This is when they act with only their primal desires in mind!
In the long run, this may hurt you, especially if you’re looking for something more. Maybe you and Mr. Capricorn started out as friendly sexual partners, but now you’re falling for him and want something more. And maybe more simply looks like exclusivity.
How can you get your Capricorn man to think the same way? Here are a few tips, gathered form my years as a relationship astrologer!
7 Ways to Go From Friends With Benefits to a Relationship With a Capricorn Man
1. Take Your Time
First of all, as hard as it is, if you want to go from being friends with benefits to exclusive with a Capricorn man, you have to take your time. Earth signs never, ever rush anything important, and if you push them too far too fast, they’ll simply close up and shut down.
What kind of time are we talking about? A month? A year? Truth be told, somewhere in between is often best. It’s a balance between not letting things go on for so long that he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too, but not so short that he thinks you’re pushy.
My advice would be six to eight months at the maximum of continuing as FWBs before giving up on commitment. After that, he may just lose respect for you, and a Capricorn man needs to have respect for his woman, first and foremost!
2. Tell Him What You Want
Here’s the scary thing — you need to step up and tell him what it is that you want. So many of us ladies simply go along with something, never realizing we can lead, too. Leading doesn’t mean that you’re pushy or bossy. You can lead in subtle ways, too.
Simply telling him, one day, that you’d like to become exclusive, no frills or sentiments attached, no tears or drama, may be the perfect way to get him on the same page as you. It shows that you respect yourself and are willing to put your feelings on the line.
After all, what’s the worst that can happen, really? He could say no, but it’s information you need to have. In the end, you’ll end up saving yourself so much time and heartache for this one moment of risk!
3. Respect Him — and Yourself
Whatever you do to go from friends with benefits to an exclusive relationship, make sure that you respect yourself and him. Respect means knowing your worth and that you’re good enough to ask for — and get — an exclusive relationship.
Capricorn men love a woman who’s confident in herself. You might even say to him that you respect the connection you have enough to make it exclusive. That will make him sit up and take notice of what you’re saying and admire you for saying it.
If you don’t, you may end up just being friends with benefits for years. This can create a lot of pain and drama in the long run if one partner isn’t satisfied with the arrangement.
4. Show Him You’re Willing to Commit
Commitment is a big deal for most, if not all, Capricorn men. As an earth sign, he actually seeks this out, and you may be surprised to hear that he’s typically the type who really believes in marriage.
It could take time for him to believe in it again though, especially if he’s been burnt before, However, you can show him you’re committed. This may simply mean keeping appointments and dates with him, being reliable, steady and stable.
He’ll soon see that you’re someone he can count on. And that means a lot to a Capricorn, helping him to take that next step with you!
5. Hold Your Power
Capricorn men love a woman who holds her power. What does that mean, exactly? It’s a woman who doesn’t chase after a man, who has her own life and never begs for love. A woman who knows what she is worth and doesn’t play games with a man.
This will make him want to have you all to himself, trust me! A Capricorn man wants someone in his life who is a match for him in every way!
6. Ditch Your Other Dates
One way to move quickly to exclusivity with a Capricorn man is to ditch your own dates and take the initiative to move forward from your end. Make the effort to stop flirting with other guys or meeting up with them, even if it’s just for a month or two while you feel out whether things will progress with your Capricorn guy.
Mention to him that you’re not seeing anyone else, but not in a way that implies he has to do the same. If he sees he can trust you and that you’re committed, he will certainly start considering his options, too!
Read next: How to Make a Capricorn Man Jealous—in One Day!
7. Prove Your Worth
Remember, if you want to go from just sexy friends to something more with a Capricorn man, it’s important that you show your worth — and that you believe in it too.
Capricorn men only want the best of the best, the cream of the crop. They are the types of guys who want a woman they can respect, which is also a woman who respects herself. This means taking care of yourself physically and emotionally, eating well, having career goals, and generally taking care of you. It means having your own life and knowing what you want — and asking for it.
When I say “prove your worth,” I don’t mean you need to convince him. You need to treat yourself like the worthy woman you are, and he’ll see that you’re not just booty call but something far more valuable.
So, ladies, respect yourself! Maybe you started off as friends with benefits, but the truth is, unless you’re made of stone or you’ve found that mythical arrangement where neither person truly wants more, FWB is a hard status to maintain.
Have you ever been stuck in a friends with benefits role and wanted to progress to commitment? How did it go? I’d love to hear from you in the anonymous comments!
If you’re wondering whether you’re really compatible with a Capricorn man, try out my free compatibility quiz!
Your friend and relationship astrologer,
I am in this predicament right now. He is 32 and going through a divorce, he has a 3 year old son. I am 37 about to go through my own divorce as well. He has said he does not want to be trapped in a relationship in many different ways.
But lately when we are together, he is more loving and talks more to me. We have an off the chart sexual connection, but he enjoys me a little more, I am a Cancer.
I recently mentioned I might like to migrate after my divorce and he has been acting weird and he even asked if we could be FWB for years. I told him that I am looking for a committed relationship at the end of the day, and he said he wished me good luck with that. He then proceeded to post love songs and love quotes/videos on Facebook for a few days.
The next week, he told me a long narrative about how people are lonely when they migrate with no family there.
Now he has been very quiet for weeks now, if I message he will reply briefly, otherwise no contact at all. He is confusing me, or maybe I should take him at his word that he doesn’t want a relationship and move on.
@Alana move on. Take him at his word. He is not looking for commitment. Period.
So update, things have gotten a bit better. We talk everyday, and he replies immediately if I say hi. He is more polite than ever and really makes the effort to reply to whatever I might want to talk about with an intelligent answer.
I am just focusing on the friendship part as I am going through a lot of things right now, and growing a relationship is at the bottom of my list at this point.
And he has become very supportive of me in my personal issues, surprising from him but very welcome, I need all the support I can get.
Maybe we can be friends, because I am also not sure if we can ever be more, or what each other needs at every level. Time will tell.
It sounds like you’re doing the right thing for the two of you. Because of that, you two can communicate better and are slowly getting closer. That’s fantastic! I’m very proud to hear this. You may want to learn more about the difficult Capricorn man by checking out my program “Capricorn Man Secrets”.
Thanks for this article. It confirms my handling of a FWB situation with a Cap recently has been right. He’s definitely in a very cautious place following the end of a long term relationship and not being in a good place in his life generally at the moment. He’s often referred to ‘wearing a mask’ and I’ve certainly felt that he’s been actively keeping me at arms length emotionally. We’ve tried a few times to step away but have always ended up reconnecting. We like each other and I think we’ve both lent on each other during lockdown. I don’t know if a relationship would develop between us, but felt that after 4-5 months we’re at the point that if something doesn’t change we’ll never move beyond the FWB situation. Two months ago I told him that I wasn’t going to contact him for a while and explained calmly, kindly but honestly why this is the right things for me. Again our contact gradually came back, with it initially being instigated by him. During this time he’s been supportive and encouraging of things in my life. Last night he suggested a hook-up and I said ‘no’. I said that I do want him, but explained my reason and suggested we meet social instead. I actually re-read your article after our conversation to boast my certainty that I’m right in sticking to my guns on this! He does need to heal. But being sensitive to that shouldn’t be a reason to put my own worth to one side.
Good for you! Yes! You are doing the right thing. If you want it to ever be more then no more sex. If you are seen as a booty call, he will never take you seriously and want to be in a relationship. You can still see him and spend time with him as he works on his own personal healing. That will show him you care and that you’re still around. You are correct though about your own worth. Work on yourself for YOU. If he snaps out of the situation he is in, he will definitely come back around for you. If you’d like to know even more about Capricorn man, check out my books on Capricorn Man Secrets.
I met a Capricorn in May. We started going on dates, but he always said he was going on a trip and we both live in different cities. He always came to pick me up at my house, we went on dates, restaurants and had sex. The last time we met he told me that he was talking to his exes and that he loved them forever and he believes that his second ex “is the right one”. I told him that we had to stop seeing each other because it was not okay! to which he continued saying “NO, we are going to continue seeing each other and he gave me a kiss and we could be friends”. He also mentions to him friendship is important because at the end of the day you want to be with your best friend. I was heartbroken, I was upset and told him I didn’t want a relationship right now! We spent the night together, and the next day he took me home, told me that it felt good I eat, and thank me for this. That she was a very pretty woman, and that not because I was a pretty girl I could try to get any man. He said to me that I’d had great qualities and that one day I would be a great woman and wife. I did not send him a message and neither did he, I miss him and I never told him that I have feelings for him and that I like him, but I do not know if he only used me. We are in no longer communication & it’s been a week.
I have been friends with a Capricorn man for nearly 4 years. In the last 6 months we have had sex. I told him I wanted more than FWB so he stopped talking and visiting me. I thought to myself well go on then sulk. Then he messaged me to see how I was. This was about 4 weeks since last visit. I told him that he hurt my feelings. I got told I was pushy – I’m Virgo and 15 yrs older than he is. Then he informed he is going to have sex with me when he wants!! I told him you are going to have to earn that privilege – besides I’m like vintage motor car while he is like a sports car (different starting places but maybe same drive lol). Now he has gone quiet again. I sent a message thru FB message saying I’m sorry you thought I was pushy but you ignored me however I want to help you succeed with your future plans. I always make sure he understands why I react the way I do. Now I have deleted all his numbers and Facebook. He wants me – he can find me. Don’t ever chase him. The longest he has ever been gone is 3 weeks. Now I’m going to exercise, get my mental health brack on track, start a new job. By which time he just might start to miss me but if he doesn’t- he lost the best thing he ever had.
You telling him what you want isn’t pushy. He just wasn’t ready to hear it. Bravo for your response!!! I love it! It’s kind of a joke that he tried to pressure you into conforming to him. I’m so proud that you are a strong woman working on yourself. You’re doing the absolute best thing for you. He can find a play thing somewhere else. All the best to you!