Why Is My Capricorn Man Hot And Cold? Is He Losing Interest?

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
In the beginning, your Capricorn man seemed all into you and then started ghosting you. Find out why is your Capricorn man hot and cold.

So you’ve set your sights on a Capricorn man, but you’ve noticed that he tends to blow hot and cold. Well, a Capricorn man hot and cold is not a surprise. But you might be wondering why is your Capricorn man hot and cold. One day he is all over you, and the next he is not interested at all.

Well, a Capricorn man hot and cold behavior is enough to give any girl whiplash—and plenty of insecurities! When your Capricorn man suddenly starts acting hot and cold, it can feel like you did something to make him like or love you less.

So why are Capricorns so hot and cold and what can you do about it? Well, the answer to this is, you can beat him at his own game. You just need to know what the rules are. If you truly understand the innerworkings of a Capricorn man, then you’ll be able to play him like a fiddle.

Let’s explore some of the reasons together why a Capricorn man could be on and off, which can help you find some peace!

Capricorn Man Hot And Cold — Does He Like Playing Hot And Cold?

This is a very analytical type of guy. He’s an earth sign, which means he knows that taking time and moving slowly are essential for things to go right. A Capricorn man doesn’t want to commit until he’s totally sure that you are the “one”.

In a way, a Capricorn man likes playing hot and cold game. He does it as a test to see how you feel about his absence. He wants loyalty, and if you remain honest, you will win his heart. Check here for more on what a Capricorn man wants in a relationship <<

If you are dating a Capricorn man and he seemed to be really into you but is now acting hot and cold, it could be that things were moving way too fast for him and it finally caught up with him.

If you think that he is playing hard to get, you are wrong. A Capricorn man doesn’t like the thrill of the chase.

He may not realize it if he goes too quickly, but at some point, reality hits him, and he may become frightened. He may realize that he needs to calm down and take inventory. At that point, you need to tell your Capricorn man what he wants to hear.

Why Is A Capricorn Man Hot And Cold? 4 Possible Reasons Why He Blows Hot And Cold

Things Are Moving Too Fast

A Capricorn man likes to start with a really good friendship that develops into more over time if both parties are on board. So with that said, a Capricorn man is not one of the signs that are known for the whole “hot and cold” thing.

Capricorns get hot when they are a bit more confident in the person they want to be with. That normally takes a bit of time. If he does happen to dive into something too quickly then yes, he will get cold and back out or suggest just being friends.

It’s very rare for a Capricorn to dive right in as that’s a careless thing for him to do and he knows it. It hurts the other person and he’ll regret it. This isn’t to say that Capricorn men won’t take part in one night stands either.

If he knows it’s just sex and there are no strings attached, he may partake of this but again, this isn’t relationship related and he’s not one to lead a woman on into thinking there is more. He’s normally very careful.

You may also want to read11 Warning Signs A Capricorn Man Is Playing You

He Has The Need For Control

If, by chance, you got into a relationship with a Capricorn man quickly, this may be what caused things to misfire. Capricorn men know that they should absolutely take their time.

Going too quickly will result in him suddenly putting on the brakes. Some Capricorn men just want to flirt and enjoy all the benefits of dating. However, immediately things start getting serious too fast, they press the brakes immediately.

A Capricorn man needs to feel as though HE is in control of his own life. By diving into a relationship too quickly, he realizes that he’s lost control of himself, and that is unacceptable; therefore, he wants to correct it as soon as possible.

If a Capricorn man says he’s not ready for a relationship, he may opt for friendship but don’t expect him to change gears for quite a while. He will definitely want to take his time before he dives in. 

Being Pushy Pushes Him Away

If you are in a relationship with a Capricorn man and are trying to push him for a title—push him for commitment, or even marriage, this is grounds for dismissal.

Capricorn man is in control of himself and his life and will not let someone else try to dominate or have a say so over what he should do as well as when. You will lose him if you try to push any of these issues.

Trust me, if you’re pushy with a Capricorn man, he will go cold towards you. He doesn’t put up with any nonsense and doesn’t like being told what to do or how to do it. Be careful!

Here’s more about what turns a Capricorn man off <<

He Doesn’t Like To Be Smothered

Just as he doesn’t like to be pushed, he also doesn’t want a woman who feels she needs to attach herself to his hip either. A Capricorn man wants an independent woman who has her own life and is pursuing her career/life goals.

He wants to feel inspired by a wonderful woman who has herself together. Someone who needs to be by his side constantly will turn him off and he will turn cold very quickly on you.

If you overreact to things or make a big deal out of things that aren’t that big of a deal, you may not do well with the Capricorn man. He’ll look at you like you’re mad.

He needs someone who is not needy or clingy. Here’s more about what a Capricorn man likes and dislikes in a woman <<

Capricorn Man Confusing Me With His Hot And Cold Behaviour — What To Do?

If you ask yourself, ‘Why is my Capricorn man confusing me?’, you may be surprised to learn that this question needs to be answered by him. You should ask him directly and ask him to explain the reason for his hot and cold behavior.

He’s a steady type of guy, being an earth sign, and this also makes him immovable at times. This means he sticks to his convictions. When he isn’t doing that, he will stop and re-evaluate.

Let him have the time he needs to make him feel secure. I know you probably want more and don’t want to slow down, but if he needs it, let him have it unless you’re willing to lose him.

If you truly love him, you will have to work on the way you talk to him and the way you express your concerns. Find a way to communicate without sounding like you’ve gone crazy.

And if you’ve already seen enough, and want to finally get out of his vicious circle of games, check out my 30-day Capricorn Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Capricorn.

How To Handle A Hot And Cold Capricorn Guy

If you are wondering why Capricorn men are hot and cold, you need to take certain steps to reverse their behavior.

To be with a Capricorn man, you’ve got to be stable, independent, and sweet, and give him the time he needs to figure out what he’s doing. Let him decide when the next step is something he’d like.

Cherish your Capricorn man and be patient. Showing him patience and great care will win his heart if that’s truly what you want. His loyalty comes with a great deal of time and honor. Show him what you’ve got!

Also, learn to start doing things without him and having fun. He’ll appreciate this, and he’ll want to get to know you better, thus allowing a lasting bond to form.

Show him how much you love your life, your career, your job, or whatever you are passionate about. He is seeking someone like him who wants to be financially set for the future and wants to work hard at it.

Learn more on how to show your Capricorn man how much you really love him <<

How Do You Know If A Capricorn Man Is Losing Interest?

A Capricorn man is led by logic and reason, and he doesn’t like it when a woman tries to compare him to another man. This will make him lose interest in you.

Other than that, if he is making excuses not to be with you or if he is not affectionate, please note that he is not emotionally invested in this relationship.

He also doesn’t want to make a mistake, so he’s very guarded and cautious. If you try to rush a Capricorn man into action simply because you’re ready, you will fail, and you’ll lose his interest.

Check these clear signs a Capricorn man doesn’t like you anymore <<

Is Your Capricorn Man Distant After Intimacy?

Does your Capricorn man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful, Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times. And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s a dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s a fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…

What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Capricorn man in 30 days or less <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

6 thoughts on “Why Is My Capricorn Man Hot And Cold? Is He Losing Interest?

  1. Hi all ! I hv met him.on a dating app. And things started in a way that it seems we are destined to meet each other. But he remains distant after one week or so. Saying he considers me only a friend. I m hearbroken. I really really love him. How to get him back ?

    1. Hi Sugar! One week or just over is really not a long enough time for a Capricorn man to figure out who you are, what he wants with you, and whether or not it’s going to be something he wants to build on or not. They are a bit slow moving and need more time to cultivate things. Yes, you will start out as a friend but in the event he wants more, you’ll be glad you started as friends as it will make the bond better. If you’d like to know more about the Capricorn man, check out my book.

  2. I’ve known this Capricorn Man for 12 years, we went out 12 years ago twice but nothing happened. I didn’t like him that much back then. 6 years later we bumped into eachother and he has changed and was kinda wonder who is this bloke only to realize he was the guy i went out with 12 years ago. but nothing happened in this 6 years. 5 years later we bumped into eachother and he just couldnt stop talking to me as if he was infatuated with me again like 12 years ago. After whole back and forth communication, we went on multiple dates and eventually spending time together and he asked me to go holidaying with him together for 4 weeks which I thought too soon. So I asked his confirmation what are we going on holidaying together as? But his answer was rather vague. It’s been 10 months and he still couldnt confirm whether we’re together or not and I give up. I’m not gonna wait 10 months for a guy who isn’t sure about his feeling. How long does Capricorn Man normally commit? Am I doing the right thing to just drop it?

    1. Hi Milosevich!

      It’s true that people change over the years. It sounds like it means something that you two keep bumping into each other. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned from one another. I don’t think there is any time table on how long it takes for a Capricorn man to commit. They want to be best friends first then they want to get to know you and love you. That could take awhile for some while for others, it can go faster. It depends on him personally and what he wants in life. Reach out to him again and ask him if there is anything between you or not. That will at least give you an answer to work with. Trust your gut!

  3. I got to know capricorn man since september. Things were ok. Then he started getting hot and cold, and is now colder, but still sits next to me, says hello, and follows me sometimes at work. Not sure what the deal is

    1. Hi Tee!

      It seems he’s set a boundary with you right now. He isn’t ready to not be friends but he’s not in the mind set to be anything more than what it is. Without knowing his reason all you can really do is play it cool with him. Act like it’s no biggie that he hasn’t been talking to you more. Keep busy and have less time for him. If he truly cares, he’ll come back around and try to make something happen. I wish you all the very best sweetheart!

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