What To Do When Capricorn Man Pulls Away After Getting Close

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Even though the Capricorn man pulls away, you can actually woo him back and make sure he doesn’t leave you! There are ways to do this but...

You’re just starting to get close and connected when your Capricorn man suddenly pulls away and becomes either physically or emotionally unavailable. Is your Capricorn man pulling away, and you don’t know what to do?

These time-tested tips based on relationship astrology will help you understand why Capricorns pulls away and what to do about it. This is going to give you the skills to create a healthy relationship with your Capricorn.

But the first thing I want you to know is that your Capricorn man may actually not be over you but just temporarily focused on solving another problem that has nothing to do with your relationship!

The Capricorn man works hard to maintain his stature of being a stand-up type of guy and being very picky about who he chooses to date. He’s intensely loyal and fiercely passionate about what he believes is right, but why do Capricorns push love away?

I have some things for you to see that may help you have better insight into Capricorn man’s behavior. So, you might want to keep reading to find out what would cause Capricorn men to pull away after getting close to you…

Why Does A Capricorn Man Pull Away? 5 Puzzling Reasons

When a Capricorn man pulls away after getting really close, this could happen for several reasons. Let’s take a look at what it is that makes a Capricorn man pull back and give you the cold shoulder:

Being Clingy Or Needy Pulls A Capricorn Man Away

When you started, you were probably a bit more independent, but you got comfortable with your Capricorn guy, so he started to get fed up with you needing him more than before.

This isn’t a good thing. Over time, things can become toxic. He will help you, but when you ask him too much, he starts to resent you, feeling like he isn’t being appreciated but used.

Remember why he fell for you or wanted to be with you in the first place and be like that again. Don’t feel that because you’re with him, you can just slack off.

Capricorn men love a woman who can take care of herself but allows him to once in a while. He’s more likely to spoil you when you’re doing really well yourself.

He may have really gotten into you in the beginning, even though you had these traits, but after time, it becomes more than he can take, and then your Capricorn man pulls away.

It’s essential to try to do better for yourself in order to pull him back in. I’m not saying you have to change, but I am saying if you can empathize with him a little, you can adjust a little just to make things less tense.

He’s Lost His Desire For You

Now, this isn’t what you think it is. What I mean by he’s lost his desire for you is due to him figuring out that there’s something he doesn’t like about you. If there is anything he doesn’t dig, he immediately shuts off.

Unfortunately, the possibilities are endless. Capricorn men have high standards for other people, and sometimes more so than for themselves, believe it or not. There is no way to know what he doesn’t like unless he speaks up.

As you might imagine, communication is key with the Capricorn man. It will also take some patience on your part to hear and understand his concerns and come to a harmonious conclusion.

If you’re in a situation where your Capricorn man says he doesn’t think it’s going to work and you’re feeling lost and unsure of what to do, I strongly recommend my 30-day Capricorn Man Love Challenge. This program is designed to give you all the tools you need to bring back the passion and connection in your relationship. Start your journey today!

Displaying Too Much Emotion Pushes Your Capricorn Man Away

Another reason why Capricorns pull away is because they feel overwhelmed. Capricorn men love a woman who is in touch with her feminine side when it comes to caring for them. He loves the attention and affection you give him.

The Capricorn guy doesn’t like women who display too much emotion around them. After a while of this, he will find excuses to not be around you. He may decide to cool off for a while so that he can figure out if you’re really the one he wants to be with and if he can handle it going forward. This is when he’ll do a bit of a disappearing act.

Even if he’s great at giving you advice or helping you through emotional situations, he won’t dig the idea of you doing this all the time. Capricorn can be your hero, but only to an extent.

This also goes for when you want to tell him how things are going at work or with your family. He does want you to be his best friend and yours, but he still seems to lack empathy.

The Capricorn man may not understand how you feel because it’s not happening to him, and therefore he just finds it overwhelming sometimes. Talking to him or arguing with him has the same effect.

Arguments Often Turn A Capricorn Man Off

It’s so draining for anyone to argue all the time. Whether he’s in the wrong or you are, the Capricorn man hates the conflict because it’s an emotional experience.

A Capricorn man is the type that wants to be strategic in working at things, but when he feels he cannot do or say things without an argument coming up, he will want to cool off and pull away.

This could just be a very temporary thing and nothing to worry about. He needs a bit of “me” time to get his mind right. He may be thinking or reviewing whether or not he wants to be with you and keep working at this or not. It really does depend on who the initiator usually is with quarreling.

Problems need to be solved, but if you go at him crying or yelling, he will just shut down. He will put this in his memory file of the atrocities you’ve committed against him.

You have to develop a better approach with this hard-to-reach guy. There is also the possibility of his ego taking over, telling him you’re not good enough for him.

Capricorn men and their high standards but inability to find empathy is really frustrating and downright hurtful. Here’s more on what turns off a Capricorn man.

You’ve Hurt His Feelings

This is probably one of the most difficult things to deal with when you’re with a Capricorn man. He doesn’t like talking about his feelings, so it’s hard to know why his feelings are hurt.

You may have said something that stuck him like a knife, or you did something that really made him think you don’t care about him.

When his feelings are hurt, a Capricorn man closes himself off. He may shut down the physical affection he’d normally have with you. He may cut off kissing, hugging, or even sex.

Capricorn men are good at shutting down when they’re upset. The worst part is when you ask him what’s wrong and he won’t tell you! How can you fix anything if he doesn’t say something?

Few More Reasons Why Capricorns Push Love Away

If you are dating a Capricorn man and he seemed to be really close to you but has now pulled away, it could be that things were moving way too fast for him and it finally caught up.

He may not realize it if he goes too quickly, but at some point, reality hits him, and he may become frightened. He may realize that he needs to calm it down and take inventory.

It doesn’t necessarily mean there is something wrong with you or that you did anything that upset him. It just means that he knows that if he keeps rushing forward, things could go very wrong for you both.

This is a very analytical type of guy. He’s also an Earth sign, which means he knows that taking time and moving slowly is essential for things to go right. A Capricorn man doesn’t want to commit until he’s totally sure that he’s with the “one”.

Oftentimes, he will start out as a friend who just becomes closer to you over time until a relationship develops. Naturally, when you start as a friend, he isn’t likely to even push forward unless he gets the green light from you.

When A Capricorn Man Pulls Away — Does That Mean He Is Losing Interest?

Capricorns are cardinal signs. They are the leaders of the zodiac, and they tend to charge forward without looking back. Still, there are times they pull away to reflect on their feelings for different reasons.

That doesn’t mean they are losing interest. This is not the only reason but it is one of the reasons why Capricorns pull away.

Generally speaking, if your Capricorn man pulls away, it could be because you hurt him or he is having a hard time seeing a future with you. Give him time; he will come around.

He is a powerful logical force, and when he pulls away, patience is required. He will ground himself with facts and take the necessary steps to come closer to you. That is if he hasn’t lost interest, which sometimes happens.

You may also want to readIs A Capricorn Man Hiding His Feelings Or Not Interested?

What To Do When Capricorn Man Pulls Away

So, when a Capricorn man pulls away after getting close, it really does require a gentle but logical approach. You will need to find a way to talk to him without seeming as though you’re overly emotional, argumentative, or attacking.

You can do this, I promise you! It only works if you’re really into salvaging what you have. I’m not asking you to change who you are, but I can honestly tell you that you’ve got to be flexible.

Approach him in a very mild tone and tell him that you’d really like to check in with him and find out what’s on his mind so that you two can work through it together.

Tell him that you need him to tell you if you say or do something he doesn’t like so you can find a way to alter it or stop doing it. It’s a very simple solution, even though it may seem difficult to achieve.

If you do love him or want him to engage back in the relationship, you will learn to talk to girlfriends or family when you’re emotional and save your calmness for him.

Communication is the fix for all of this! It can take some work, but doing it will make your relationship not only pull back together but also improve it and make it stronger.

Will A Capricorn Man Come Back After Disappearing?

If you’ve made the mistake of doing any of the things I’ve mentioned, then it’s probably not all that likely that he will return. He holds a grudge pretty well, and it would take time and forgiveness to get past it.

When you make stupid small mistakes, you can apologize, and perhaps he’ll get past it with a bit of time. However, if you really go after him in an argument, he will not want anything else to do with you.

You’d really have to prove to him somehow that you’re not ever going to do that again and that you’re working on your own behavior. If you don’t think you did anything wrong, you won’t see or hear from him again.

He can and will return if he thinks you are worth his while. If he feels you will not hurt him or insult him again, then he may come back. It really does depend on the severity of what happened.

Read nextHow To Communicate With A Capricorn Man Properly

Does Your Capricorn Man Disappear After Intimacy?

Does your Capricorn man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?

Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style. He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop your Capricorn man from pulling away after you begin getting really close. And it will be accomplished in only 30 days…

So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Capricorn man pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Capricorn man in 30 days or less <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

13 thoughts on “What To Do When Capricorn Man Pulls Away After Getting Close

  1. My Capricorn man unfortunately has a girlfriend that he’s committed to. Apparently I was a “friend with benefit,” which doesn’t help me because I fell in love!

    1. Hi Carole L Stephens!

      Oops… nothing you can do when he’s committed to another. I am so sorry that you felt as though you were only a friend with benefit. That wasn’t nice of him to do that. There are still other amazing Capricorn men out there that will make you their commitment and will stick with you only. Stay open to love sweetheart! You’ve got this!

  2. I’m not sure if I want to hold onto him He’s exhausting, I am a Libra, and high empathy. We are opposite sides of the coin. He says I am negative, but he doesn’t understand how empathy works cause he has none. So the negativity he is feeling are his own feelings being reflected back at himself from me. He often asks me why In laugh at the things he says, he not what he saying, it’s in actuality what he is thinking. I have walked out on him 25 times and he doesn’t get it. I digress.

    1. Hi Brenda Faith Gilbert!

      Wait, you’ve walked out 25 times and you’re still with him? You need to ask yourself why. What is there that makes you want to stay with him. It’s important to know that because it’s that reason will help you better understand yourself. It can help you figure out if he’s worth your effort or not. Then you can decide if you want to stay for good or leave for good. You should have your birth chart looked at as it surely could tell you these answers. I wish you all the best!

  3. I will send a flirty text and he will respond with one word, so I have decided to give him space and let him text if he wants to. I made a comment about us not seeing each other possibly until 2022 and his response was “funny”. I don’t understand.

    1. Hi Marsha C Koeppen,

      If he responds even with one word, he’s responding and that’s a good thing. If that’s not enough content then tell him you that you would love to have more of a response than a one word. Tell him to meet you halfway with texting. There is always a way. His response to your comment about 2022 seems as though he’s not taking it seriously. You’re right to just give him space. I think before you do that though tell him that you’d like to know if he still wants the two of you to work or not. He should tell you and if he doesn’t just go quiet on him. If he really cares for you and wants you then yes, he will come back around. If not, then you’ll know to let him go and move on. I wish you all the best!

  4. Hello I been dealing with my capricorn guy for 7 years now and I get confused because we have great times together he takes me places even if it’s at his family house or his house it means alot to me but recently he made a comment telling me that I haven’t reached the level of being a girlfriend/wife spot for him honestly I don’t know what it is and I give him my all everytime I text him encouraging him and saying good things to him idk what to do I’m a hopeless romantic I guess with him it seems he expects more from me I haven’t heard from h in weeks and I haven’t text him either what did I do wrong I’m a cancer woman by the way

    1. Hi Sophia!

      Geez, he’s dragging this out isn’t he?! Alright so what you need to do is ask him “what does it take to reach girlfriend status with you?” You need answers because you don’t want to wait around forever to “see” if you ever get there with you. Just ask him sweetheart. If he expects so much from you then there needs to be a price on it because otherwise what are you getting out of it? You deserve devotion. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

  5. My long distance Capricorn and I have been in and out for many many years. I recently told him that I’d like to think about taking this more seriously in the near future. I asked him his thoughts and what he would like. He calls and texts then crickets been like this for years. He has went quiet again.. It’s a pattern.What can I say to hear more from him? To get him back in again. Anything besides the one word comment.

  6. I have been dating a Capricorn for 7 months. It has not been easy. He met with me this weekend with a desire to break up. I didn’t react the way he thought I would and is now needing space to reconsider. The short of it was, he misunderstood a lot of what I said and instead of talking to me about it, he decided and made a choice. I also think someone was whispering things in his ear. He is a very emotionally immature person. We talked about his issues civilly, with no fighting or screaming. He knows he has things to work on and I am happy to walk with him and help him grow if he does the work, but I don’t know if he will. I am giving him space, but it is leading to confusion about whether I want to be with him or not. I love him and will his good, but I don’t know anymore.
    Here are some of my qualms with him: patterns of reckless behavior, running away from any conflict/negotiation, avoidance of responsibility, lack of ambition, disrespect via jokes, does not understand boundaries, poor time management/prioritization, unrealistic view of relationships and love (thinks there should be little to no compromise), listens to other people instead of making own decisions, seeks attention and affirmation at the expense of self-growth, refuses to communicate and work through misunderstandings, and puts friends over relationship to the point that it feels neglectful. We’ve talked about a lot of these things, and he just doesn’t seem to mature and understand.

    At this point, I don’t know if he will decide to change at all. He seemed really confused and acknowledged he has flaws. But I don’t know if I can baby him to grow up. He has to do it on his own and I don’t know if he will. I told him I knew he was different from me in many ways and never sought to change him, but only help him be his best self. I still picked him despite differences, but he doesn’t seem to want to be with someone unless they are a direct reflection of him.

  7. I unintentionally said something to him which is hurting him. Although I apologized right away, he is replying to my texts as well but behaving cold. How should I approach him or should I give him more time?

    1. hi manjot, I’m no expert but I do know a thing about capricorn men. the best thing to do since you already let him know you are sorry is to show him love. regardless of what he says or does, be sweet and nurturing to him. be there for him no matter what, and he will come around.

  8. Understanding the complexities of Capricorn men has been revolutionized by your unparalleled insights. I am grateful to you for your helpful and precise direction, which has made the process of establishing relationships with Capricorn men easier.

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