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5 Reasons Why Capricorn Man Pulls Away – And How To Pull Him Back

Don’t Let Your Capricorn Man Slip Away!

Even though the Capricorn man pulls away, you can actually woo him back and make sure he doesn’t leave you! There are ways to do this but, it’s really important that you get to know why he pulls away in the first place.

After you understand why he ices you out, don’t give up just yet! Keep reading to learn the five reasons why a Capricorn man pulls away, as well as how to pull him back in! 

5 Reasons Why A Capricorn Man Goes Cold

Let’s take a look at what it is that makes a Capricorn man pull back and give you the cold shoulder. Why is he acting like your relationship isn’t priority now? Does he still love you? 

1. He’s Lost His Desire For You

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Now, this isn’t what you think it is. What I mean by he’s lost his desire for you is due to him figuring out that there’s something he doesn’t like about you. If there is anything he doesn’t dig, he immediately shuts off. 

This could be something big, like not feeling like you prioritize him, or it could be as miniscule as disliking like it when you floss sitting next to him. 

Unfortunately, the possibilities are endless. Capricorn men have high standards for other people, and sometimes more so than for himself believe it or not. There is no way to know what he doesn’t like unless he speaks up.

As you might imagine, communication is key with the Capricorn man. It will also take some patience on your part to hear and understand his concerns, and come to a harmonious conclusion 

Has he mentioned before about something that he didn’t like that you were doing or not doing? If that’s the case then take a look at that. Did you make changes or work on it? 

If you’re not the type of woman willing to make compromises then this can be a big issue. On the other side of this, is he willing to compromise with you? It has to go both ways.

In the event your Capricorn man hasn’t mentioned to you something he really doesn’t care for then this will blindside you if you ever do find out from him. This is a good thing to ask when he’s acting standoffish. 

2. He Finds Your Feelings To Be Too Much

Capricorn men love a woman who is in touch with her feminine side when it comes to caring for him. He loves the attention and affection you give him. He doesn’t like when you cry or complain. 

The Capricorn guy doesn’t like women who display too much emotion around them. After a while of this, he will find excuses to not be around you. 

He may decide to cool off for awhile so that he can figure out if you’re really the one he wants to be with and if he can handle it going forward. This is when he’ll do a bit of a disappearing act.

Phone calls become sparse and he won’t initiate texts with you as he once may have. If you live with him and he’s giving you silence and not being affectionate, then you know what I mean.

Even if he’s great at giving you advice or helping you through emotional situations, he won’t dig the idea of you doing this all the time. Capricorn can be your hero, but only to an extent.

This also goes for when you want to tell him how things are going at work or with your family. He does want you to be his best friend and him yours but he still seems to lack empathy.

The Capricorn man may not understand how you feel because it’s not happening to him, and therefore he just finds it overwhelming sometimes. Talking to him or arguing with him has the same effect.

The only way to get through to him is through logic but sometimes it’s hard to do that when you feel really sad or filled with anxiety about something he won’t talk about. 

I totally get how you feel and I have to tell you that this is a flaw with the Capricorn man. He can be terrific but his tolerance for patience and understanding is not the best. 

3. You’re Coming Off As Clingy Or Needy

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When you started you were probably a bit more independent but you got comfortable with your Capricorn guy so he started to get fed up with you needing him more than before.

This isn’t a good thing. Over time, things can become toxic. He will help you but when you ask him too much he starts to resent you feeling he isn’t being appreciated but used. 

Remember why he fell for you or wanted to be with you in the first place and be like that again. Don’t feel that because you’re with him, you can just slack off. 

Capricorn men love a woman who can take care of herself but allows him to once in awhile. He’s more likely to spoil you when you’re doing really well yourself. 

He may have really gotten into you in the beginning even though you had these traits but after time, it becomes more than he can take then Capricorn man pulls back. 

It’s essential to try better to do for yourself in order to pull him back in. I’m not saying you have to change but I am saying, if you can empathize with him a little, you can adjust a little just to make things less tense.

When you got a flat tire and he came to help you with it, he thought it was adorable if not sexy. He was your hero. 

Now, when you call him frequently asking him for help, he’s going to think that it’s not the life he wants and you may not be the right partner for him. There is always room for improvements. 

4. Arguments Often Turn Him Off

It’s so draining for anyone to argue all the time. Whether he’s in the wrong or you are, the Capricorn man hates the conflict because it’s an emotional experience. 

He’s the type that wants to be strategic in working at things but when he feels he cannot do or say things without an argument coming up, he will want to cool off and pull back.

This could just be a very temporary thing and nothing to worry about. He needs a bit of “me” time to get his mind right. 

He may be thinking or reviewing whether or not he wants to be with you and keep working at this or not. It really does depend on who the initiator usually is with quarrelling. 

Problems need to be solved but if you go at him with crying or yelling, he will just shut down. He will put this in his memory file of atrocities you’ve committed against him.

Look, it’s not really an atrocity to argue but in his mind, it’s really one of the worst things in the world you can do. This can make him hold a grudge for a long time as well.

You have to accrue a better approach with this hard to reach guy. There is also the possibility of his ego taking over telling him you’re not good enough for him. 

Capricorn men and their high standards but inability to find empathy is really frustrating and downright hurtful. 

5. Feelings Were Hurt

Capricorn Man Pulls Away - And How To Pull Him Back

This is probably one of the most difficult things to deal with when you’re with a Capricorn man. He doesn’t like talking about his feelings so it’s hard to know why his feelings are hurt.

You may have said something that stuck him like a knife or you did something that really made him think you don’t care about him. 

When his feelings are hurt he closes himself off. He may shut down the physical affection he’d normally have with you. He may cut off kissing, hugging, or even sex.

Capricorn men are good at shutting down when they’re upset. The worst part is when you ask him what’s wrong and he won’t tell you! How can you fix anything if he doesn’t say something? 

Having to figure out what is going on with him or decoding his actions is really quite difficult. What can be done about this? How can you get through to him? 

Read next: 5 Turn Offs That Make A Good Capricorn Man Leave A Great Woman

Pull The Capricorn Man Back

It’s a sad reality that love isn’t always kisses and roses, but it can take some hard work! The Capricorn guy is a particular man, with quirks that might not work with every woman. If you’re reading this article and it doesn’t seem right then the Cap man may not be your perfect match! However, if you have the patience for this picky man, then there are ways to pull him back to you.

With Capricorn men, it really does require a gentle but logical approach. You will need to find a way to talk to him without seeming as though you’re overly emotional, argumentative, or attacking. 

You can do this – I promise you! It only works if you’re really into salvaging what you have. I’m not asking you to change who you are but I can honestly tell you, you’ve got to be flexible. 

Approach him in a very mild tone and tell him that you’d really like to check in with him and find out what’s on his mind so that you two can work through it together. 

Tell him that you need him to tell you if you say or do something he doesn’t like so you can find a way to alter it or stop doing it. It’s a very simple solution even though it may seem difficult to achieve.

If you do love him or want him to engage back into the relationship, you will learn to talk to girlfriends or family when you’re emotional and save your calmness for him. 

Communication is the fix for all of this! It can take some work but doing it will make your relationship not only pull back together but it will improve it and make it stronger. 

I truly wish you all the luck of the stars ladies! You can make a difference in your love life with Capricorn. 

And if you wish to learn more about the ways of finding out what Capricorn man wants without asking it directly, then check out my brand new guide Capricorn Man Heart Opener and make him share his true feelings, and become emotionally available with you in few easy ways.

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Reach for the Stars and Trust in the Universe! 

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

  • My Capricorn man unfortunately has a girlfriend that he’s committed to. Apparently I was a “friend with benefit,” which doesn’t help me because I fell in love!

    • Hi Carole L Stephens!

      Oops… nothing you can do when he’s committed to another. I am so sorry that you felt as though you were only a friend with benefit. That wasn’t nice of him to do that. There are still other amazing Capricorn men out there that will make you their commitment and will stick with you only. Stay open to love sweetheart! You’ve got this!

  • I’m not sure if I want to hold onto him He’s exhausting, I am a Libra, and high empathy. We are opposite sides of the coin. He says I am negative, but he doesn’t understand how empathy works cause he has none. So the negativity he is feeling are his own feelings being reflected back at himself from me. He often asks me why In laugh at the things he says, he not what he saying, it’s in actuality what he is thinking. I have walked out on him 25 times and he doesn’t get it. I digress.

    • Hi Brenda Faith Gilbert!

      Wait, you’ve walked out 25 times and you’re still with him? You need to ask yourself why. What is there that makes you want to stay with him. It’s important to know that because it’s that reason will help you better understand yourself. It can help you figure out if he’s worth your effort or not. Then you can decide if you want to stay for good or leave for good. You should have your birth chart looked at as it surely could tell you these answers. I wish you all the best!

  • I will send a flirty text and he will respond with one word, so I have decided to give him space and let him text if he wants to. I made a comment about us not seeing each other possibly until 2022 and his response was “funny”. I don’t understand.

    • Hi Marsha C Koeppen,

      If he responds even with one word, he’s responding and that’s a good thing. If that’s not enough content then tell him you that you would love to have more of a response than a one word. Tell him to meet you halfway with texting. There is always a way. His response to your comment about 2022 seems as though he’s not taking it seriously. You’re right to just give him space. I think before you do that though tell him that you’d like to know if he still wants the two of you to work or not. He should tell you and if he doesn’t just go quiet on him. If he really cares for you and wants you then yes, he will come back around. If not, then you’ll know to let him go and move on. I wish you all the best!

  • Hello I been dealing with my capricorn guy for 7 years now and I get confused because we have great times together he takes me places even if it’s at his family house or his house it means alot to me but recently he made a comment telling me that I haven’t reached the level of being a girlfriend/wife spot for him honestly I don’t know what it is and I give him my all everytime I text him encouraging him and saying good things to him idk what to do I’m a hopeless romantic I guess with him it seems he expects more from me I haven’t heard from h in weeks and I haven’t text him either what did I do wrong I’m a cancer woman by the way

    • Hi Sophia!

      Geez, he’s dragging this out isn’t he?! Alright so what you need to do is ask him “what does it take to reach girlfriend status with you?” You need answers because you don’t want to wait around forever to “see” if you ever get there with you. Just ask him sweetheart. If he expects so much from you then there needs to be a price on it because otherwise what are you getting out of it? You deserve devotion. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

  • My long distance Capricorn and I have been in and out for many many years. I recently told him that I’d like to think about taking this more seriously in the near future. I asked him his thoughts and what he would like. He calls and texts then crickets been like this for years. He has went quiet again.. It’s a pattern.What can I say to hear more from him? To get him back in again. Anything besides the one word comment.

  • I have been dating a Capricorn for 7 months. It has not been easy. He met with me this weekend with a desire to break up. I didn’t react the way he thought I would and is now needing space to reconsider. The short of it was, he misunderstood a lot of what I said and instead of talking to me about it, he decided and made a choice. I also think someone was whispering things in his ear. He is a very emotionally immature person. We talked about his issues civilly, with no fighting or screaming. He knows he has things to work on and I am happy to walk with him and help him grow if he does the work, but I don’t know if he will. I am giving him space, but it is leading to confusion about whether I want to be with him or not. I love him and will his good, but I don’t know anymore.
    Here are some of my qualms with him: patterns of reckless behavior, running away from any conflict/negotiation, avoidance of responsibility, lack of ambition, disrespect via jokes, does not understand boundaries, poor time management/prioritization, unrealistic view of relationships and love (thinks there should be little to no compromise), listens to other people instead of making own decisions, seeks attention and affirmation at the expense of self-growth, refuses to communicate and work through misunderstandings, and puts friends over relationship to the point that it feels neglectful. We’ve talked about a lot of these things, and he just doesn’t seem to mature and understand.

    At this point, I don’t know if he will decide to change at all. He seemed really confused and acknowledged he has flaws. But I don’t know if I can baby him to grow up. He has to do it on his own and I don’t know if he will. I told him I knew he was different from me in many ways and never sought to change him, but only help him be his best self. I still picked him despite differences, but he doesn’t seem to want to be with someone unless they are a direct reflection of him.

  • I unintentionally said something to him which is hurting him. Although I apologized right away, he is replying to my texts as well but behaving cold. How should I approach him or should I give him more time?

    • hi manjot, I’m no expert but I do know a thing about capricorn men. the best thing to do since you already let him know you are sorry is to show him love. regardless of what he says or does, be sweet and nurturing to him. be there for him no matter what, and he will come around.

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